A mom courageously shared that she feels sorry for having her son, saying he’s really troublesome. She mentioned on Quora that she and her husband had to call the police on their own child.
The woman, who wants to stay anonymous, replied to a question on social media about regretting having kids, saying, “Sadly, I do regret having my son. I had him at 18, and honestly, he’s been a difficult child since day one.”
She went on to talk about the challenges she faced with her son’s behavior from when he was a baby to his teenage years, as reported by The Mirror US. The mom described, “As a baby, nothing could comfort him. In his toddler years, he became extremely energetic and destructive. When he turned four, his sister was born, and he strongly disliked her, harboring intense jealousy. Even 11 years later, he still holds a grudge against her.”
She talked about her son’s school difficulties, stating, “In school, he resisted learning because he disliked rules. Despite being smart, he refused to engage in learning. Now, at 14, he’s turned into a bully, refusing school and ignoring any requests. We walk on eggshells, afraid he’ll react strongly if upset.”
The mom further explained, “He hasn’t attended school for almost two years, claiming he shouldn’t if he doesn’t want to.” Expressing her distress, she shared, “In the past month, I’ve had to call the police three times because he became extremely aggressive, attempting to physically harm me and my husband, damaging our rental property, and persistently telling my daughter to harm herself. He threatens to harm all of us.”
In her desperate state, she conveyed, “He finds it amusing, playing games with the police, making them chase him. He would call us, taunting the police, claiming they couldn’t catch him. During the latest incident, the police surprised him and arranged for an ambulance to take him for a mental health evaluation.”
The mom revealed that their son had consulted with a psychiatrist who mentioned he might have ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) but couldn’t provide much assistance. The bewildered mother admitted, “I hate to say it, but I can’t stand him. I want to sign my custody over to the state.” In response to criticism, she later updated her post, stating that the entire family had attended therapy together, but it didn’t yield any success.
The mom revealed, “My son and our family have undergone numerous family counseling sessions. From ages four to 12, he regularly saw a psychiatrist, who assessed him for conditions like autism and ADHD, but he didn’t fit into those categories. As he’s grown older and bigger (6″1), things have worsened. He refuses additional counseling or assessments. I believe there might be more to his diagnosis than ODD, but he’s clever and can manipulate specialists by telling them what they want to hear.”
“He can be quite the charmer! Unless the doctor manages to provoke him (which they won’t), he can act like everything is fine and normal, leaving us with no assistance. I also want to emphasize that, of course, I do and have always loved my son with my whole heart. It’s just extremely challenging to be around him, and I’m at my wits’ end.”
A reader suggested, “As harsh as it may sound, I feel you should consider giving him to the state. He seems severely mentally ill, posing a danger to you, your husband, and a threat to your daughter’s mental health and safety. There might be little you can do for him, and the situation may only worsen as he grows older. He shouldn’t be a threat to your family. Also, please recognize that his behavior isn’t your fault.”
One person commented, “There is something more than ODD going on here I think,” and another replied, “Yeah, he sounds like a serial killer in the making.” A fourth person wrote: “Some people are just wired ‘wrong’, and no matter how great the parents are, that person will never be ‘right’. I hope you get the right sort of help with him soon. If he ends up in prison, don’t blame yourself, as it sounds like you’ve done everything you possibly can for him.”
